When Worlds Collide

August 24, 2012 at 7:00 AM 14 comments

“You heard them  . . . didn’t you?”

“Yes, I heard them.”

“They won’t have it. The world won’t come to an end; it can’t possibly collide with another world because—well, for one thing, it has never done such a thing before, and for another, they won’t have it. Not when you dwell upon the details. They won’t have it.”

 ~From When Worlds Collide by Phillip Wylie & Edwin Balmer

In a story I won’t dwell on or give space to, enemies  of the notion of Black women dating interracially recently made sure we “heard them” via a pseudo article that was simply a thinly veiled attempt to bash Christelyn Karazin, blogger extraordinaire and co-author of Swirling: How to Date, Mate, and Relate Mixing Race, Culture, and Creed. Just as the rogue planets in Wylie and Balmer’s 1933 classic were on a collision course with planet Earth, so the various rogues, trolls, and internet nomads roaming the web are doing everything in their power to detract from, obstruct, and even stamp out the “choose character over color” message of Karazin and other interracial relationship advocates.

No, “They won’t have it,” yet the message that Black women have options is getting through nonetheless through such notable women as:

 These and many other pro-interracial dating and marriage bloggers inhabit the other world, the world that is proudly marching on despite the repeated rumblings and threats posed by the wannabe colliders. This world – this brave, new world, if you please – will continue: Stalwart and unflinching; poised and ready to speak out concerning the gas lighting practices designed to keep Black women in a perpetual state of confusion and dismay, and to speak up regarding alternative choices and options Black women can take to attain the happiness and fulfillment they so richly deserve.

The main characters in When Worlds Collide managed to build a spaceship and escape the pending disaster. They left their doomed world and found a place of habitation on another planet. Thanks to the messages of hope and inspiration proclaimed by interracial dating and marriage advocates – and the living, breathing, successful examples that many of them demonstrate – Black women are embracing the fact that they have the opportunity to expand their options, make relationship choices that serve their personal best interests, and achieve their fullest potential. And that, my friend, is my world.      


Join in the Fray:

Which of the two worlds are you living in? Is anything “colliding” in your world?


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14 Comments Add your own

  • 1. dasdbobb  |  August 24, 2012 at 10:19 AM

    Mine too. for most of my adult life. got sidetracked twice, big mistakes both. I will gladly remain in you’re world. It’s a lot more fun too.

    • 2. A Swirl Girl  |  August 24, 2012 at 3:16 PM

      Bob, glad to have you in my world – and glad you’re in the RIGHT world! LOL

  • 3. The Working Home Keeper  |  August 24, 2012 at 2:32 PM

    Thank you for the mention!

    Mary Ellen
    The Working Home Keeper

    • 4. A Swirl Girl  |  August 24, 2012 at 3:17 PM

      Mary Ellen, for sure! I learn so much from your blog. Keep the great posts coming!

  • 5. Integrated Memoirs  |  August 24, 2012 at 2:49 PM

    Awesome post!! Thank you 🙂

    • 6. A Swirl Girl  |  August 24, 2012 at 3:18 PM

      Elise, thank you! I’ve been reading your blog for some time and I look forward to your posts. You and your husband Joseph are such an inspiration!

  • 7. Don Rice  |  August 24, 2012 at 4:36 PM

    Excellent post, my friend! Keep ’em coming, and keep the trolls on their toes!

  • 8. A Swirl Girl  |  August 24, 2012 at 5:03 PM

    Don, thanks so much for stopping by! I know that “Trolls gonna roll,” but that’s why I keep PLENTY of troll spray on hand! LOL

  • 9. BlackWomen DeserveBetter  |  August 25, 2012 at 4:20 AM

    I am truly glad so many are getting it…Yes, Black women deserve better, however the first step begins with US!

  • 10. Keya  |  September 4, 2012 at 5:07 PM

    It’s so funny most of my black girlfriends who are my age, in our 30’s, are single. And none of them but one are dating outside their race. Me on the other hand, I’m black and been happily married to my white husband for 6 beautiful years. We have 2 kids and one on the way. I’m glad I didn’t listen to my family, I married the man I love.

    • 11. A Swirl Girl  |  September 24, 2012 at 2:36 PM

      Keya, I’m glad you followed your heart (and used good ole fashioned common sense!) and decided to choose character over color! I’m happy for you and your hubby.

  • 12. Top Interracial Websites | KolorBlind Mag  |  September 24, 2012 at 8:49 AM

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  • 13. 3209345@gmail.com  |  September 29, 2012 at 2:07 PM

    I agree Swirling is angled as not an option but required for black girls who want a future with a man. Considering 1 in 5 black men are in prison, on parole, or on probation, and or are felons, the fact is there are not a lot of options to choose from. For facts, see http://www.naacp.org/pages/criminal-justice-fact-sheet

    • 14. A Swirl Girl  |  September 29, 2012 at 6:51 PM

      Thanks for reading, and thanks for sharing the link!


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