Well, I Never!

January 14, 2011 at 1:01 AM 6 comments

The Urban Dictionary defines swirl as “two people of different ethnicities hookin up.” Now, after a wonderful time in undergrad at a prestigious HBCU (historically Black college/university), marriage to a Pentecostal pastor (who passed away after 10 years of marriage), and dates with various brothers. I find myself in the unlikely state of being “a SWIRL girl.”

Yes, me.


The daughter of an Army officer Father who lived and traveled all over the US and abroad with her Mother and two brothers.  The first (along with my brothers) to integrate the schools in the small town in Louisiana where my Mother grew up.  Soul-Sista, feminist –  ME! Power-to-the-people – ME! Angela-Davis I-love-your-fro-and-I’m-rockin’-natural-hair-right-now – ME!

All-of-that and more describes me, the girl who I can honestly say never seriously entertained the idea of an interracial relationship and was never really down with swirling. In high school a couple of  White guys (very hesitantly) approached me , and in college a Puerto Rican classmate (I’ll call him Darren) had a bona fide crush on me. I dismissively laughed off the high schoolers (and was even somewhat insulted!). I really liked Darren as a person, but just could never wrap my head around actually dating him. I certainly never thought I would be the ME that I am today, “a SWIRL girl.”

Yes!  I’m now  “a SWIRL girl” – all booed up with a White guy.

In a word, WOW.  Mama always said, “Never say never” – and I guess she was right.

And so the journey begins! Please join me here each Friday when I share my views on life, love, and culture as I traverse through “the SWIRL world.”

Feel free to “like” The Swirl World on Facebook and join the discussions there. Talk to ya Friday!

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6 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Jacque  |  December 27, 2010 at 10:39 PM

    It’s a wonderful thing when true love finds us. This world iis full of crime, violence, hatred and more. We cant get enough love.

    People are always talking about crossing over to the other side. When did love have a side? You are proof love knows no boundaries, is color blind and happens to all of us if we let it….

  • 2. Michelle  |  January 14, 2011 at 10:48 AM

    It’s amazing what happens once we decide to open ourselves up to various experiences…..I’m truly happy for you and looking forward to not only hearing your journey but watching with quiet excitement from the sidelines…..love ya!!!

    • 3. A Swirl Girl  |  January 14, 2011 at 10:53 AM

      Michelle, THANKS SO MUCH!!! If nothing else, I KNOW this is going to be an adventure!!! LOL

  • 4. Tina  |  January 15, 2011 at 12:26 PM

    As a fellow girl new to the swirl, I look forward to reading about your experiences and possibly sharing a few of my own.

    Congratulations on finding love in a world that is sometimes unloving.

  • 5. A Swirl Girl  |  January 15, 2011 at 12:38 PM

    Tina, thanks for responding. I definitely want you to share your experiences; we can learn from each other. You’re so right about the world being unloving sometimes. In my estimation, all the more reason to embrace love wherever you find it!

  • 6. KolorBlind Princess Temi  |  May 27, 2012 at 1:30 AM

    Your story sounds a lot like mine. I’m officially KolorBlind now.


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